A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I met a girl who would become my wife. We had only been dating a few months before she dropped on me “I want to have 3 kids”. At the time we were 26 and my first response was ”I don’t want a kid until I’m 35” Surprisingly, I didn’t get a bad reaction. 10 years later and we’ve just had our 3rd and our lil’ man is now 5 weeks old.
I was shit scared about becoming a dad for the first time. The plan to wait til I was 35 didn’t happen. We had our first child when we were 27, our gorgeous little girl.
But my first reaction was “Ahh fuck! How am I going to look after a child and raise them? I’m still partying and being a booze hound, staying out late clubbing all night, doing shots and dancing to my hip hop legends with my boyz.”
The truth is I’m still all of those things but definitely don’t do them that often anymore. The reality is I would much rather be at home with my 3 kids and being a child myself!
Nothing beats building couch forts, playing Mario Kart and Donkey Kong, hide and seek, teaching my kids to ball like Jordan and Lebron, taking them to the footy to watch the Hawks and reflect about that amazing 3-peat… with so many amazing things still to do. I never in a million years thought I would be a good dad.
Nothing beats building couch forts, playing Mario Kart and Donkey Kong
But I’m here saying I’m great at it and it’s the best feeling in the world having the kids run up to you when you get home from work.
People come and people go but your kids will be around no matter what mood you’re in they always change it for the better.
My wife was always going to be an amazing mum and I don’t know how she does it. She’s super organised and keeps all of us on our toes. In reality she has 4 kids because when I’m sick with man baby flu, I’m worse than the kids. But the Mrs. is the rock and the glue that holds the family together. Keeping all the parts moving freely “Did you pack the bottle?” “Ahh, shit. Nup. I’ll do it…” she is always on point and if it wasn’t for her I don’t know how we would cope.
I definitely didn’t expect to be able to financially look after a child, let alone 3, but you manage. It’s all the little things to look at. What’s more important, all those Foxtel channels that we don’t watch or a family holiday? It’s not that hard, we just put a little aside each fortnight and make sure we aren’t spending money on shit we don’t need. No new clothes… I’m still wearing shit I had 5 years ago. Luckily I try and stay the same size, although with all the fish n chips I eat, I could be writing a different story in another 5 years
All the things I loved doing when I was in my mid 20s, like staying out late, is the last thing on my mind. In fact on Friday nights I love going to bed straight after the footy so I can be up at 6am with the kids and tackle the weekends with them.
It’s said that people never change! That’s a load of shit! Everyone changes. Their personality might not but their actions and values do! To now say I didn’t expect to be a good parent/ daddy is the biggest understatement!
I love it and although the kids and Mrs can drive me crazy, we are all crazy about each other and that’s how our family rolls!